"Relaxing into not knowing is almost like surrendering into a big, comfortable chair - you just fall into a field of possibility." ~ Adyashanti
Coaching is everywhere and exists for everything. It's become a bit of a catch phrase, a bit of a craze. You might want to learn gourmet cooking or how to see without glasses. You might want to hone your executive leadership skills or master your intimate relationship. Whatever your need or desire, there'll be a coach for this. Just ask Google!
So, why on earth would you want a Spacious Steps coaching session?
Spacious Steps coaching helps you find your own intuitive and embodied answers! It heightens your sensitivity to register your unique personal responses. Whatever the issue at hand, the focus is always on the process of noticing and empowering this inner knowing.
For many of us, this is something we need to remember and relearn. Like going to the gym, our intuitive muscles need strengthening! Often, our gut reactions, premonitions and hunches have been dimmed down, if not cut off completely, due to our upbringing and life conditioning. We may not even notice these intuitive responses. And, if we do, they can easily be overriden by rational justifications.
Whether we like it or not, we have all been moulded into the cookie cutter shapes of the culture and society we were born into or acclimatized to. A sense of moral obligation, right and wrong, appropriate and inappropriate, was deeply instilled in us through the social norms and expectations in our families, schools and wider communities. Mostly this happened on a non-verbal, unconscious level, starting from when we were in our mother's womb.
In Western society, the intellect and rational thinking have come to be largely prioritised as part of this cookie cutting. And, as a result, we often limit ourselves to looking for answers on a rational level. Feeling stuck, blocked, depressed and unable to move forward are often simply symptoms of this deeper lying issue.
And this is where Spacious Steps coaching comes in:
it invites and supports you to step into the spacious flow of your intuitive and embodied knowing...
"The rational mind is a faithful servant, the intuitive mind is a sacred gift. We have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift". ~ Albert Einstein
What then is Spacious Steps coaching?
Spacious Steps coaching empowers you to ask clear questions and to listen for answers. Answers that may not always make immediate rational sense. Answers that may arrive like a left-field ball, unexpectedly, out of the blue: often shaped in the non-verbal communications of metaphors, memories, bodily sensations and more. Answers that may be easy to miss or dismiss.
Each session offers a chance to capture these answers. It offers a training ground to fine-tune our capacity to notice these communications and to take them to heart. Above all, it is a call to bring the insights received into our daily life.
In practice, this can often feel like reinstating a sense of sparkle into our days!
And, how does Spacious Steps coaching work?
In essence, it's all about relaxing into not-knowing, about softening into uncertainty. It's an invite to let expectations, assumptions, shoulds and preconceived perceptions fall away.
Inevitably, a field of possibility opens up. A source of insights that is not necessarily linear or rational. A field of knowing that becomes accessible directly through what we witness in our bodies, sensations and connective tissue; through our intuitive flashes, insights and unexpected ideas; through an innate compass that is not physical yet highly tangible.
Our body and being become our receptive satellite dish. Each coaching session becomes a learning container to remember this direct connection to creative solutions. A safe space to build up our intuitive muscles, to 'think out of the box'. A journey to expand our horizons to new perspectives, paradigms and possibilities.
We engage in an easy process based on dialogue with a clear intention (the focus at hand) and simple techniques such as grounding, centering, meditation, visualisation, attunement and relaxation.
Insights that surface might offer simple practical next steps. They may reframe a situation or experience in a way we had not considered before. They may also involve bigger picture realisations, placing an issue into a fresh, previously unnoted context.
These insights can often appear like a glimpse of life's magic - unlimited and there for everyone!
Where does Spacious Steps coaching stem from?
I became a certified coach with Wise Goose coaching - an approach that acknowledges the transpersonal field of human experience. And, I was taken by surprise how familiar the coaching techniques appeared.
Although it is crucial to distinguish between the aims of coaching (looking at what we want to nurture in our life) and those of counseling or therapy (helping us look at what is not going so well and the deeper issues to address), there are some key overlaps in my experience.
Prior to training as a coach, I had been practising the TARA Approach Rediscovery process for some time. This modality focuses on healing shock and trauma with the practitioner holding space while engaging in gentle dialogue with the client through attuned questions. This felt so similar to what was being asked of me as a coach.
The International Coaching Federation (ICF) code of ethics, describes the essence of true coaching, as: "holding space for a client to allow their personal growth to lead the coaching conversation. Coaches are not advisers, but rather active listeners who are not wedded to the outcome of any coaching conversation."
This resonated completely with the work I had been doing. What is more, practising as a body worker and biodanza facilitator for many years, I was also extremely familiar with the power of experiential learning based on bodily wisdom accessed through relaxation.
Bringing this experience together, allows me to offer coaching sessions that honour both the rational, intellectual and intuitive, embodied sides of being human.
And, though we call it coaching now - using one of our 21st century buzzwords - I can't help but wonder:
is this process of holding space something humans have always engaged with... across cultures and throughout time?
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